John,

Diagnosed HIV+ in 1989

How did you react to testing positive for HIV?

My name is John. I was diagnosed with the virus in 1989. It was hard when I first was diagnosed because I didn't want to deal with it. So, I was in denial for a number of years. My lifestyles didn't coordinate well. You can't use drugs and play sports, and I was a jock. I was an athlete. So, something had to give.

Has taking medicines for HIV helped?

Medication has allowed me to live that extra life. I feel just as good todayÑand I say this seriouslyÑas I did 35 years ago.

What would you tell someone who just tested positive?

I would tell someone just diagnosed, don't give up. It's not as bad as it seems. I think, once you settle in with the idea that you know that you're positive, it will be come a little bit easier for you.

How did testing positive change your life?

Finding out that I was positiveÑat that point, I didn't think that they could save my life. Five, 10 years down the line, I'm looking at what has just happenedÉwould I have gone back to school had I been diagnosedÉ kinda iffy. Would I have gotten married if I was diagnosed?Ékinda iffy. But I started to do things that, quote-unquote, normal people do. That's how it changed my life, for the best.

Did being diagnosed change who your friends were?

The friends that I met were going places, were doing things, were people in school furthering their education, taking care of their families, and being responsible adults?

What do you do to cope from day to day?

I joke. I laugh. I believe humor has been the biggest piece that has helped me out through whole this thing, through this whole process. Even from day 1 til now. And the people that I hang with let me know that. Like, "why are you so pleasant?," you know? "You've got so much going on but nothing really bothers you." And I hold on to that.